Today the July 22nd 2012 The Sun on Sunday published an article about me which has caused a lot of hooha.
The premise of the article was that if my daughter wished to become an escort, then as I have run brothels for the past 20 years, and I’m not a hypocrite I would support her in that decision and help her to work safely and sensibly.
My argument is that every girl who becomes a sex worker is someone’s daughter, and all daughters are created equal. They’re all precious.
When I owned my agencies and a new girl would come to me wishing to start working in the sex industry I would give her the advice I would give my own child. I would help her see the pro’s and cons and if she was determined to continue on that career path I would do my best to help her stay safe, in control and devise exit strategies for when and if she changed her mind and wished to stop.
My daughter Emilia, discussed in the article has no wish to be an escort. It was a hypothetical piece of writing to create controversy, which it did. Emilia’s studying at collage, works two jobs in retail and is so comfortable if dis-interested in the sex industry she’s not even bothered to read my book about my two decades owning houses of ill repute. See the sneaky link… http://www.amazon.co.uk/Madam-Becky-Adams/dp/0957148909/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1328552005&sr=1-1
All these points were missed by most of the readers who were baying for my blood and convinced I’d sent her to work the street outside my house. That’s fine, I’m kinda used to that, but what has concerned me slightly is that most people think the worst thing about being a sex worker is having sex with quote ‘…fat old men’.
So, in an ageing overweight population, what constitutes being old and fat? I know what a man is.
What age do men have to be before they are considered so revolting that they cannot be considered as relevant members of society with sexual needs?
Many of the posters of these comments were men who may think themselves young, virile and irresistible, but who are possibly considered past it, obese and stinky by others.
In fact, most sex workers I know would rather see a nice plump old gent who is quick and grateful than a cocaine fuelled wide boy who wants to go through the Kama Sutra 9 times in an hour.
Seriously, stout older chaps should riot in the streets….for a bit and then have a sit down and a sandwich. If an escort posted on a thread that the worst thing about being a hooker was sleeping with big black men or Asian dudes they’d be arrested twice. Once for being on the game and once for being racist. How can the public get away with being ageist and fattiest wherever they like?
As a plump middle aged lady I’m quite partial to plump middle aged men, and as the excitement over 50 Shades of Grey shows, many ladies can get quite racy at the thought of getting jiggy with an older gent.
I’d say the worst thing about being a sex worker is the spiteful judgement of those finger pointers who are so quick to condemn a vulnerable section of society of whom they know little and care about even less. The harsh criticism of others is what forces prostitutes into secrecy, isolation and danger.
It is surly a basic human right to do what you fancy with your own body and have consensual sex with whom you wish, just as it’s a basic human right to scoff the last jam tart and enlarge your waistline.
Anyone for a biscuit and a blow-job?